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It is altogether possible that I have been one of the most insecure and neediest people I know. Not now so much, but lordy me, in the past, and some of it is in the recent past. I was jealous, envious, competitive, always comparing myself, and always losing because when you compare, you lose.
I was the last of seven, and in many ways, I had privileges that my siblings did not. As a change-of-life baby, I followed my twin siblings by ten years, and they followed a brother by five, but the rest were born in a cluster. My privileges ranged from being the least abused to having my own room, eventually. Not quite a recipe for a confident woman.
Life and family influences did nothing for my confidence or self-esteem. I was shy, a total introvert, a mediocre student, an underachiever, and needy for approval from wherever I could get it. Pretty pathetic, I would say.
BUT, THANK GOD FOR MY SPIRITUAL TEACHER AND SPIRITUAL COMMUNITY. (Which is why I strongly suggest raising your children in a healthy, loving, and accepting community, be it religious or spiritual. The main ingredients must be love and acceptance.)
My old spiritual community, (The original Planned Happiness Institute), my first Science of Mind Community, Ernest Holmes, Louise Hay, Neville Goddard, Don Miguel Ruiz, Colin Tipping, and Debbie Ford were the secret sauce for me learning to love and accept myself as I was and as I was not.
It took years to be able to say and mean: I LIKE ME. I LOVE ME. I APPROVE OF ME - AS I AM. It took years and years and years. I needed to confess my envy and insecurities many times over.
BUT NOW: I am here to tell you I am free of wanting or needing approval. I no longer need the approval of so many colleagues who would barely acknowledge me. I notice, but give no energy to hidden criticisms. I stopped looking to see if my equals liked a post on social media. I have been left out and rejected by many - oh well.
I FOUND MYSELF when I started to remember that that which breathes me is me. That which created me never left or separated from me - I separated from it. I doubted my connection. I got distracted because I was looking for my value in those around me, many of whom couldn't care less about it. My expansion became possible because I returned to Cause and stopped dancing in the world of form.
THE REWARDS are many, here are a few:
I am so relaxed in all areas of my life.
I take risks without looking for the net, I just jump.
The more authentic I am, the more individuals around me relax into themselves.
I have a greater impact as a teacher and coach.
My business and readership are growing in leaps and bounds.
My professional value has increased as I have come to value myself.
Am I bragging - maybe a bit, but only because I have NOTHING that you don’t have. Life is hard enough without us making it harder. How do we make it hard? We fight against that glorious, infinite essence that created us by doubting its creation. Yes, when you criticize yourself, you are criticizing your maker.
Take these few steps today and every day for the next 30 days, and then let me know what has shifted. Send an email to: Michelle@MichelleWadleigh.com
Begin to watch your mind and your speech closely - this is how you create yourself. Get a handle on your thinking/speaking, and redirect it affirmatively.
STOP all self-judging and judgment of others, stop gossiping, and stop complaining. Shift all of it. Reward yourself for your successes.
Give generously to the world around you, become a source of love and approval, not just for yourself but for all. That which you give away - you become. Give compliments, single flowers, bigger tips, listen intently, and look into the eyes of anyone you are speaking to.
LASTLY AND MOST IMPORTANTLY. Every night, as you slip into the alpha state right before sleep, be diligent and only ponder uplifting and powerful thoughts of self-love. Imagine your desired outcomes as complete, and ask yourself this: As I learn to completely love and approve of myself, what does my life look like?
I promise you this: your life will change drastically when your SELF-APPROVAL becomes the most important thing that you cultivate.
Try it for 30 days.
Begin your journey with Shadow Work. Click here for a link to my book.
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